Do you ever feel so happy it just bubbles over? I mean recently, not way back when, back in the day when you were dating your sweetheart and floated around on a cloud, but now. Now, when you’re in the trenches with kids and laundry and pets and jobs and school and church and community service and, and, and…..
I hope you DO feel happy! We all need those days! Today is one of those days for me – one of those moments, even, because who can count on a whole day, right?
I have learned that if I wait for THE BIG THING to be happy, I won’t be very often. So, over the years, I have read all the cliches, internalized them and try to live by them because there is truth there.
*Live in the moment
*Happiness is a journey, not a destination.
*Happiness is a conscious choice, not an automatic response.
*Happiness is an inside job.
*If you want to be happy, be.
*Joy is in the journey.
And how about this one: No one can make you happy but yourself. When we were first married, my husband told me he wasn’t responsible for my happiness. I was offended, but he was right of course. Happy has to come from within. I am happy to be married to such a loving, supportive man who makes me “own” my stuff. 🙂
I’ve been grumpy and I’ve been happy. I really prefer happy. (And let’s be honest – so does everyone around me….)
I read a most fascinating LDS Conference talk last week. This one was given in 1973, a full 40 years ago. Given by Hartmon Rector Jr and titled “Success – A Journey or a Destination,” it included this gem:
The Lord doesn’t seem to measure success in terms of attainment of position or power or wealth. A prophet in the Book of Mormon (where, by the way, the most succinct and unvarnished truths can be found) said, “But behold, all things have been done in the wisdom of him who knoweth all things. Adam fell that men might be; and men are, that they might have joy.” (2 Ne. 2:24–25.) If man is that he might have joy, then success to the Lord must include the attainment of real joy. On the basis of this definition, then, no one is really successful who is not happy.
If this be the Lord’s definition, then there is precious little success in this world. Success in its practical application seems to be more a state of mind than anything else. Obviously, many people never make it because they are ungrateful. They are not thankful for what they have; therefore, they are unhappy and thus are not successful. I have never seen a happy person who was not thankful for what he had, to paraphrase the Prophet Joseph Smith, who stated that “doubt and faith cannot exist in the same person at the same time.” (6th Lecture on Faith.) It is also doubtful that success and unhappiness can exist in the same person at the same time.
No one is really successful who is not happy! Think about that! I think I might know a lot of very unsuccessful people…..
So for today, for this moment, I am enjoying being happy!
I am happy that my children are playing hide-and-seek in my room (my youngest is 9 – these aren’t itty bitties!) I am happy that my 9 year old daughter has a BFF from up the street and that they are inseparable this summer. I am happy for overflowing zucchini plants because it is cheap chicken food.
I am happy (and grateful, because they are really one and the same) for good friends. I am blessed with many. I am happy for people who make me laugh. I am happy to look out my window and see a gathering thunderstorm. I am happy my son who is in a wheelchair gets to spend 4 hours a day in the MTC and share the Gospel. I am happy I’m a mom. I’m happy we are back to being a 2-car family after a year of being a one car family.
I am happy that my kids are using YouTube to teach themselves magic tricks and I’m happy at how happy it makes them to show them to me. I’m happy for good music, good chocolate, pregnant mommies, new babies, good public policy and campaigning. (You had to know I could mix birth and politics in here somehow.) I’m happy for the pink roses now in bloom on the bush I planted in honor of my girls who left this earth too soon. I am happy to have air conditioning. And an iPhone. And the Internet. I’m happy my cheeks hurt from smiling today. I’m happy to be going camping in some of the most beautiful mountains in the world this weekend. I am beyond happy to have discovered digital books. Who knew there was such a wonder in the world. I am happy there are artists gifted in many areas I am not – painting, music, photography, sculpting, landscaping and making, baking, posing and taking awesome foodie pictures. I am happy.
It’s a good life.